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aliljaded 53F
23949 posts
5/23/2020 4:34 am
A public response to a personal attack

S, now that you have ‘advised’ everyone else how behave on the blogs, isn’t it about time you leash and gag your sub? I do believe she has lost all credibility as a submissive and you're not far behind as a Dominant, by not holding true a real D/s or M&s relationship ( just my opinion ).
I've been standing on the side-lines watching this drivel unfold and up until now, have not felt the need respond. But when I woke up this morning find that I was attacked yet again, I could no longer hold my tongue or pen. I’m not standing up for Joe, I’m standing up for myself.
Punkin, you are a mean, nasty, and ignorant person. It seems you get off on causing other people pain, drama, and misery. I wish you would go back to focusing on your dominant and leave everyone else alone.
It's troubling to me that you know exactly what I post and the content of what's in it, yet claim its shit and don't read it. That also makes you a liar. Some of my posts are self-written, personal, and describe my journey through life and the lifestyle. I have applied visual art rendering to many of the pictures I post and the selection of prose is always advisory, I don’t just cut and paste bullshit ( your words ). You may think yourself well-read and informed about the Lifestyle, many are not and appreciate my signposting and revisiting, as evidenced by the responses I get.
In conclusion, I'll just say you have no right to dictate what goes on my blog or anyone else's for that matter. I would never be so arrogant as to do such a thing. Have you no self-restraint? you or your Dom? Can you not scroll past something and ignore it? As a submissive of 25+ years in this lifestyle I've learned patience, tolerance respect, and restraint. Where is yours?


"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


Nsa2tie 68M  
640 posts
6/15/2020 12:58 pm

Damn, I'm so late to the party that you've all danced through the night, finished the booze, thrown out the rowdiest of your guests, tidied up the mess, poured bleach on the worst of the spills and things are back to normal now that the blog police have moved on.

Having mastered the skill of scrolling past posts if I feel the need, I fully admit that I don't read your blog every day. But when I want to, I'm glad to have the opportunity and treat it as an island of enjoyable tranquility. Well apart from this post, which was a perfectly valid response to undeserved criticism.

I hope you continue to enjoy contributing to the site.


JoElspanstp 70M

6/2/2020 2:36 pm

    Quoting  :

"mindless sycophants" ~ great phrase. Sycophants are commonplace fixtures in the District of Columbia and other places where politicians thrive on rhetorical verbosity. .


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 8:05 am

    Quoting ARomanticSadist:
    *checks the dresser* OK, my belt is still there, but some Dom needs to check his pants, cuz jaded just gave someone a spankin'!

    (Not taking sides either way, because I don't have an issue myself with the parties involved, just wanted to give my impression of what I read first thing this Sunday morning. Think I will go back to bed where it is safe)


"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 8:03 am

    Quoting gafferh:
    Handled well alil...
Thank you

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 8:01 am

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Just keep being you and ignore the comments that are overly critical.
Thank you, DD. I will.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


ARomanticSadist 54M
1298 posts
5/24/2020 6:57 am

*checks the dresser* OK, my belt is still there, but some Dom needs to check his pants, cuz jaded just gave someone a spankin'!

(Not taking sides either way, because I don't have an issue myself with the parties involved, just wanted to give my impression of what I read first thing this Sunday morning. Think I will go back to bed where it is safe)


gafferh 68M
308 posts
5/24/2020 6:06 am

Handled well alil...


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 5:03 am

    Quoting lighthouse4297:
    Good morning M, bravo. Yes what happened to self restraint in Doms and subs. Is it just role play for them and not true D/s? What about patience tolerance love and understanding for our follew humans? Big hugs L
You are a true friend and I am blessed to have you in my life. I love you.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:59 am

    Quoting 1uncommondom:
    They might want to start by understanding
    that no where in the first amendment of
    the constitution does it state that freedom
    of speech is a conditional right.
    Nor does it state a person has no right to say
    stupid things.
    Nor does it state that if you call
    yourself Sir you get to decide what others can
    say in their blog.
    Actually that's exactly the oppressiveness
    forbidden in the first amendment.
    Have a great memorial day
Thank you for your input, it makes so much sense. I appreciate it. Please enjoy your weekend as well

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:54 am

    Quoting 7thSunof7thSun:
    Self-annointed 'Alt royalty'...seldom last... nor do they generally have much to say. Your writing, what you care to share... is part of you, thus it's yours. There are a lot of folks here, that have such damaged senses of self, that they only know how to lash out at others to try to fill the empty spaces inside. I've been around here and blogging for over 15 years..(holy shit that's a long time).. and all I can offer is the first rule of Italian Driving... 'What's behind me, is not important'... Keep sharing... if you are like Me... it's good for 'us'.

    Sun.
Yes, it is 'Good for us" and thank you for sharing.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:51 am

Thank you.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:50 am

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    As always, you have stated a fact and done so with grace and elegance.....hats off to you !
As always you have been a lady in your response. Thank you.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:49 am

    Quoting MissLadywood:
    You have handled this with class fine lady
Thank you so very much, Woody, through this insanity I have found friends I never knew I had.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:46 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you, K. I appreciate the compliment and kind words.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/24/2020 4:44 am

    Quoting Dreamcatcher__:
    Damn. I'm late to the party again.

    Never mud wrestle with a pig. You both get filthy, but the pig loves it.

    I, on the other hand, M, love you and your blog ain't chopped liver either.

    It is unfortunate that many folks here don't have the time or opportunity to really get to know each other personally. I know that the few people who level criticisms at your blog wouldn't do so if they knew you better. I do have the privilege of knowing you better, and I can attest that the criticisms are not warranted.

    I suggest that we all take a deep breath and attend to our knitting. And JoEl, you don't help anything by commenting six times on every damn blog post you see. Occasionally it is okay to have an unspoken thought.

    namaste~
Thank you so much, J . I love you too. I agree with your sentiments and I will try to take your advice in stride. Hugs to You.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”


JoElspanstp 70M

5/24/2020 3:54 am

    Quoting  :

Herr Mac, Whose life is it?


Dreamcatcher__ 87M
7020 posts
5/23/2020 8:56 pm

Damn. I'm late to the party again.

Never mud wrestle with a pig. You both get filthy, but the pig loves it.

I, on the other hand, M, love you and your blog ain't chopped liver either.

It is unfortunate that many folks here don't have the time or opportunity to really get to know each other personally. I know that the few people who level criticisms at your blog wouldn't do so if they knew you better. I do have the privilege of knowing you better, and I can attest that the criticisms are not warranted.

I suggest that we all take a deep breath and attend to our knitting. And JoEl, you don't help anything by commenting six times on every damn blog post you see. Occasionally it is okay to have an unspoken thought.

namaste~


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
5/23/2020 11:02 am

Another thought I had, f this female person who is apparently submissive to the guy, it would seem she is being dictated to. Which in my mind, make him more domineering than dominant. Not being able to express here thought or told to express his thought under her screen name is rather petty. It shows his insecurities. I feel bad for her not being able to be herself. In the long run, I suspect she will be unhappy. He is forcing her rather than allowing her to submit. I don't think I know either of them.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


throbbingvein 53M
22 posts
5/23/2020 9:38 am

Considered, polite, factual, accurate, concise and spoken from a position of authority and knowledge, as always.
A Bells? No no no....this Lady drinks only single malts!


MyLoveandPet 55M/48F
10164 posts
5/23/2020 9:01 am

    Quoting JoElspanstp:
    I think I figured out the real problem that the "blog patrol" won't really say.

    I just realized that the blogs are ranked. Is that so? Are they ranked? There's a page where aliljaded's blog is first (top right hand column) and then I see my blog right below it and others, etc.

    If they are ranked, how are they ranked? Is there a mathematical formula? What is the criteria? Votes? Number of posts? Number of responses? What is it? How do they get ranked?

    So I am think that that is the problem. Are people getting jealous? Their anger feigned or not has nothing to do with the number of blogs being posted, but rather on the ranking of blogs. Is that what all this commotion is about? Does anybody have any idea of what I am talking about?
Oh absolutely, the main blog page has always been the source of "alt popularity"(high school bullshit games) the "Active Blogs (by unique responses)" used to actually be called "Popular blogs" (years ago) and it is ranked on activity. "Making the main page" is a goal of desperate attention whores, it is a side effect of being too interesting or entertaining and it often draws negative attention. I personally have learned to work against alt popularity after my turn in the spotlight because I did not enjoy the personal attacks, constantly being reported to alt, alt threatening to ban my account, etc. That is a large part of why I do not comment often outside of my own blog, I do not post very often and I avoid most controversial topics most of the time.

ML.

[post 126640] ~ submissive to submissive


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ADOMIS4U2 62M
820 posts
5/23/2020 9:01 am

Tal greets girl you are showing great resolve and honor in holding your tongue till now, your experiences in this way of life shows you have learnt well the ways of a submissive one , is just a pity others dont look to there inner selves to understand and learn from experiences


MissLadywood 51F
6195 posts
5/23/2020 8:51 am

You have handled this with class fine lady

Life So Short, The Craft So Long To Learn


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 8:48 am

Amen to that!


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 8:47 am

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    As always, you have stated a fact and done so with grace and elegance.....hats off to you !
"As always, you have stated a fact and done so with grace and elegance.....hats off to you !" I totally agree. Grace and Elegance live and thrive in her blog.


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 8:31 am

    Quoting drmgirl622:
    As always, you have stated a fact and done so with grace and elegance.....hats off to you !
I think I figured out the real problem that the "blog patrol" won't really say.

I just realized that the blogs are ranked. Is that so? Are they ranked? There's a page where aliljaded's blog is first (top right hand column) and then I see my blog right below it and others, etc.

If they are ranked, how are they ranked? Is there a mathematical formula? What is the criteria? Votes? Number of posts? Number of responses? What is it? How do they get ranked?

So I am think that that is the problem. Are people getting jealous? Their anger feigned or not has nothing to do with the number of blogs being posted, but rather on the ranking of blogs. Is that what all this commotion is about? Does anybody have any idea of what I am talking about?


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
5/23/2020 7:47 am

As always, you have stated a fact and done so with grace and elegance.....hats off to you !


Artschoolgrad 46M
8441 posts
5/23/2020 7:26 am

amen!


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 7:17 am

    Quoting 1uncommondom:
    They might want to start by understanding
    that no where in the first amendment of
    the constitution does it state that freedom
    of speech is a conditional right.
    Nor does it state a person has no right to say
    stupid things.
    Nor does it state that if you call
    yourself Sir you get to decide what others can
    say in their blog.
    Actually that's exactly the oppressiveness
    forbidden in the first amendment.
    Have a great memorial day
Can you please define "stupid things" for the record. Thank you.


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 7:16 am

    Quoting aliljaded:
    * This post is self-explanatory.
For the record, I post an average 3.4 Blogs per day since I came here. As to there stupidity I do not know.


MyLoveandPet 55M/48F
10164 posts
5/23/2020 7:09 am

    Quoting JoElspanstp:
    "petty, jealous attention whores who will say and do mean/stupid bullshit just to get themselves attention" ~ Concise, direct, to the point. Amazing observation. I like what you saw and called it out for what it was.
I have seen this cycle spin around so many times hell I've even been sucked into participating on previous occasions. Now I just come in and write what I want when I want and do not care if anyone likes it, agrees with it, goes off and writes posts bitching about me/what I wrote ( I never see them, I don't look).

I am happy with my life, I love my Pet, I do not need the negativity of others invading my bubble.

ML.

[post 126640] ~ submissive to submissive


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7thSunof7thSun 60M
286 posts
5/23/2020 6:52 am

Self-annointed 'Alt royalty'...seldom last... nor do they generally have much to say. Your writing, what you care to share... is part of you, thus it's yours. There are a lot of folks here, that have such damaged senses of self, that they only know how to lash out at others to try to fill the empty spaces inside. I've been around here and blogging for over 15 years..(holy shit that's a long time).. and all I can offer is the first rule of Italian Driving... 'What's behind me, is not important'... Keep sharing... if you are like Me... it's good for 'us'.

Sun.


1uncommondom 77M

5/23/2020 6:47 am

They might want to start by understanding
that no where in the first amendment of
the constitution does it state that freedom
of speech is a conditional right.
Nor does it state a person has no right to say
stupid things.
Nor does it state that if you call
yourself Sir you get to decide what others can
say in their blog.
Actually that's exactly the oppressiveness
forbidden in the first amendment.
Have a great memorial day


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 6:46 am

What they said was mean spirited and hurtful.


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 6:44 am

    Quoting MyLoveandPet:
    I am sorry you are hurt/upset. After more than a decade hanging around this dumpster-fire I have learned to ignore virtually every one and very rarely ever read or comment outside my own blog anymore. Unfortunately for you, as the current top of the popular blog list you will be targeted by petty, jealous attention whores who will say and do mean/stupid bullshit just to get themselves attention and posts like this will just feed the trolls. Not that I am saying you shouldn't defend yourself or tell the cunt to shove a pineapple in it, just that these things never seem to end well.

    ML.
"petty, jealous attention whores who will say and do mean/stupid bullshit just to get themselves attention" ~ Concise, direct, to the point. Amazing observation. I like what you saw and called it out for what it was.


MyLoveandPet 55M/48F
10164 posts
5/23/2020 6:09 am

I am sorry you are hurt/upset. After more than a decade hanging around this dumpster-fire I have learned to ignore virtually every one and very rarely ever read or comment outside my own blog anymore. Unfortunately for you, as the current top of the popular blog list you will be targeted by petty, jealous attention whores who will say and do mean/stupid bullshit just to get themselves attention and posts like this will just feed the trolls. Not that I am saying you shouldn't defend yourself or tell the cunt to shove a pineapple in it, just that these things never seem to end well.

ML.

[post 126640] ~ submissive to submissive


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Kitkatshadow 57F

5/23/2020 5:09 am

Give that lady a "Bells"


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 5:00 am

    Quoting DancingDom:
    Just keep being you and ignore the comments that are overly critical.
Good advice. Yet, personal attacks hurt. When I think about it, who the Hell do these bullies think they are? Certainly, they cannot be God's gift to the society of freaks such as us. I use the term "freaks" here as a term of endearment. I hope I did not offend because that is the last thing I want to do.


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 4:55 am

    Quoting lighthouse4297:
    Good morning M, bravo. Yes what happened to self restraint in Doms and subs. Is it just role play for them and not true D/s? What about patience tolerance love and understanding for our follew humans? Big hugs L
Big hugs indeed.


JoElspanstp 70M

5/23/2020 4:53 am

I second the motion. Honestly, I was very hurt by what was said about me, very hurt. I have been pretty depressed. It was a personal attack on me. Several times the bullies tried to explain their gripe and I found it held no merit. It was simply their opinion. I thought the entire blog community was against me with a few exceptions. I started dismantling my blog and I am now upset that I did. I have been trying to rebuild it where I can with the correct dates and such.

I was not aware that you were attacked as well. In my opinion, your blog is a masterpiece and a work of art in its entire form. You have mastered the subject, but there are not enough words to truly master what it is that you say or post, because it is a work or mastery built on the progression of life. In my professional world "continuous improvement" never ends because it is just that, "continuous."


lighthouse4297 56F
1680 posts
5/23/2020 4:43 am

Good morning M, bravo. Yes what happened to self restraint in Doms and subs. Is it just role play for them and not true D/s? What about patience tolerance love and understanding for our follew humans? Big hugs L


DancingDom 74M
22475 posts
5/23/2020 4:42 am

Just keep being you and ignore the comments that are overly critical.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


aliljaded 53F
8847 posts
5/23/2020 4:38 am

* This post is self-explanatory.

"Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”



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