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pac369 64F
10563 posts
2/16/2021 5:03 am

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3/13/2021 5:26 pm

Your from where??


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~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


pac369 64F
12698 posts
2/16/2021 5:20 am

Distance did not feel like a problem before the pandemic.. Last year though I talked with a pilot from Florida. For several months we attempted to meet, and for one reason or another it didn't happen...

So now... I get messages from the UK ,Germany, Switzerland, and especially Australia! Really? What the fuck is going on?? I can't meet someone from my own country... What is the expectation when someone lives thousands of miles away and has a 8 plus hour time difference? There is nothing realistic about this for me...

Have you tried to have a IM conversation with someone from Australia with a 16 hour time difference? Well let me tell you.... I have, and it's a nightmare! Especially, when they can't remember the time difference...

I must admit though I have one European Dom friend. We have been messaging for about 14 months now.. He is 17 years younger than me. And the fact we still talk puzzles me sometimes... We are both Geminis though and do understand each other deeply... And yeah, he has woken me up many times in the middle of the night with his 9 hour time difference, lol.... But there is no pressure in our conversations, because there is no expectation of ever meeting... It makes a huge difference...

Now... I just try to discourage conversations from Dom's who are not in America.. But damn... Why do the Dom's on the east coast always appeal to me?? I wish I knew...

~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


Falcon1343 80M
286 posts
2/16/2021 5:30 am

have you considered someone from
the midwest?? one never ever knows
what could happen now does one?


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 6:47 am:
Well.. The midwest did come up a few times... And every time the Dom rejected me because I lived to far away, lol... So go figure. Thanks for the comment.

Plzrmeister 67M  
10136 posts
2/16/2021 5:42 am

Why do the Dom's on the east coast always appeal to me??

The natural law of the ALT universe is that there is an direct relationship between appeal and distance.

Yes, the greater the appeal, the greater the distance.

It works every time - Sort of like gravity.

Yep .... Appeal and proximity are, for all practical purposes, mutually exclusive terms.

Make Women Female Again


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 6:49 am:
Oh how right you are... Like wanting something you can't have... Love the insight from your comments... Thank you!

pac369 64F
12698 posts
2/16/2021 5:49 am

I really appreciate what you are saying tsarah... But if I talked to everyone who contacts me I could be online all day, lol... But your thoughts show a different view than mine. And I am all for it... Thank you for sharing!

~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


Gowron 69M
3089 posts
2/16/2021 5:49 am

    Quoting pac369:
    Distance did not feel like a problem before the pandemic.. Last year though I talked with a pilot from Florida. For several months we attempted to meet, and for one reason or another it didn't happen...

    So now... I get messages from the UK ,Germany, Switzerland, and especially Australia! Really? What the fuck is going on?? I can't meet someone from my own country... What is the expectation when someone lives thousands of miles away and has a 8 plus hour time difference? There is nothing realistic about this for me...

    Have you tried to have a IM conversation with someone from Australia with a 16 hour time difference? Well let me tell you.... I have, and it's a nightmare! Especially, when they can't remember the time difference...

    I must admit though I have one European Dom friend. We have been messaging for about 14 months now.. He is 17 years younger than me. And the fact we still talk puzzles me sometimes... We are both Geminis though and do understand each other deeply... And yeah, he has woken me up many times in the middle of the night with his 9 hour time difference, lol.... But there is no pressure in our conversations, because there is no expectation of ever meeting... It makes a huge difference...

    Now... I just try to discourage conversations from Dom's who are not in America.. But damn... Why do the Dom's on the east coast always appeal to me?? I wish I knew...
There's also a big difference between north and south hemispheres, even if the time of day is the same.

I often chat with people freezing in mid winter and worried about the many inches of snow on their street while I'm naked and sweating in mid summer and 106⁰F.

They speak of white Christmas and all those I've known were sweaty ones.


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 6:51 am:
Yeah... Thanks for bringing that up... Because I certainly did not think of it. Even though I have been watching the Australian Open on tv... It would sorta freak me out to celebrate x-mas and be sweating for sure... Thanks for your comments..

kinky6061 27F

2/16/2021 5:57 am

Finding the one who really understands you is just very key in situations like this dear. We all have our different lives we were living before coming here. Irrespective of the time difference or ditance, if you really have someone at heart, you definitely will be together, it might only take some time.


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 6:53 am:
Very good perspective with your thoughts.. I so enjoy hearing others opinions and experiences.. Thank you for sharing..

DancingDom 74M
22474 posts
2/16/2021 6:19 am

Fr the last 59+ years I have maintained friendships all over the world. Sometimes we don't communicate for years, and sometimes nearly daily via various means of communication. Key word, friendship. There is nothing wrong having freindships, that are separated by time, distance or even age.

I have some connection here in kinky land that are friendship bases. We share common interest; more often than not in non kinky ways. But, we have a base to discuss activities and such in our realm. One never knows if the age or distance would lead to or prevent a more intimate involvement. Some folks, only live in the virtual world and time zone differences I suppose make that awkward. But think back before the internet (if are old enough to remember that). People communicated and got involved by writing letters, which would take days, weeks or even months to reach the recipient.

Just make the best of what ever level of involvement you have and enjoy.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 7:02 am:
I doubt I am as friendly as you, lol... And yes.. I do remember before the internet.. When letters, pagers,and landline phone lines were how we communicated.. Thanks for sharing those thoughts down memory lane!

pac369 64F
12698 posts
2/16/2021 6:56 am

Good points for sure... But sometimes I do give Dom's the benefit of the doubt. And continue conversations. I don't like being rude in these instances. But I do need to worry about my self more. Thank you again for your thoughts..

~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


pac369 64F
12698 posts
2/16/2021 7:12 am

Lol... How can I not be flattered with that comment? Will I recognize it?? What a question... And food for thought. I hope I will... Because I certainly know what I don't want... Your thoughts are putting my mind in overdrive today... Thank you!

~ Physical strength is measured by what we carry. Inner strength is measured by what we can bear. ~


drmgirl622 68F  
25880 posts
2/16/2021 11:35 am

I've learned never to discount anyone......my friends extend through multiple time zones and one special one is definitely a world away. It can work.....it's oneself wanting to work at it that makes the difference.


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 12:38 pm:
I hear that and I agree.. But both individuals need to be motivated to meeting.. Otherwise it get pretty depressing with countless excuses.. Thank you again for your comments.. I always enjoy them...

Dave54321 61M
2674 posts
2/16/2021 1:29 pm

I thought I had problems with all the Dommes from France contacting me.
As I'm in the UK, they are merely hundreds of miles away & if there's a time
difference it's only an hour. Not that I believe that most of them are genuine
anyway.


pac369 replies on 2/16/2021 1:54 pm:
Well Dave... Now you know it can get much worse, lol... Thanks for your comments..

tastetester61 62M
1749 posts
2/16/2021 11:53 pm

I've communicated with many subs from the US, and while I'm genuine, being in Australia has made it difficult to have them take me seriously. I only contact those I have a genuine interest in after carefully reading and considering their profile (yes, profiles matter). I have met numerous women from the US through these conversations, and I only start such contact after I have definite plans to visit there. 2014 saw me visit for 5 weeks doing Route 66, 2016 for 5 1/2 weeks travelling from Chicago to NOLA, then through La and Tx. In 2019 I spent 3 months travelling eastern Canada, USA, and Cuba. This was the most difficult trip to get people to take my communication serious, but once I began sending messages from within the US, people were more accommodating. I guess it all depends on intention and possibility, so the context of the communication is the key here. I wouldn't bother with continued contact without the possibility of meeting at some time in the future, unless of course there are points of common interest that are worthwhile pursuing.


pac369 replies on 2/17/2021 5:34 am:
I like the fact you described the communication based on interest and the fact you would be coming to the states. It makes a huge difference to me to... Intentions are important to know.. Thank you so much for sharing...

Kinkykat88 44F
6 posts
3/7/2021 1:34 am

I agree about the whole distance thing. I have been trying to catch the attention of a Dom who lives very close to me. Playing hard to get just works too damn well on me. I for some reason get messages from men in India and I have no clue why. If the one I want is an hour away, what would I need one 5,000 miles away? I do not even see the point.

Don't confuse my needs with your wants.


pac369 replies on 3/8/2021 4:22 am:
Of course I agree with your points Kinky.. I also get those messages from other country's. Like you if I could find a local, or someone even in the same state would be great. But that just hasn't worked. Good luck with the Dom who lives close to you! And thank you for sharing your experiences..


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