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I've been on (mostly) and off Alt for the last dozen or so years, with a hodgepodge of handles/names (really digging this new one). I've been exploring in the lifestyle for decades, but the real learning began after my 2006 divorce. It's been a fascinating ride. While I've been here, I've loved, hurt, learned, had a blast, gotten bored, and everything in between. Kind of like life. But most importantly, I've learned to embrace all of myself; from the loving protective daddy to the aggressive dominant that resides in my soul. I spent many years reconciling those now comfortably conflated characteristics.
I love women of all ages, and age is a state of mind. However states of mind and wisdom don't always equate. I'm open.
I have an inherently tender soul that loves physical touch and emotional connection. I also love to create erotic (and with the right person, often extreme) pain that transcends the physical exploration and opens a world of emotional release that is intimate, sexual, erotic, cathartic and connecting. And most importantly, only pain that has no adverse or traumatic effects. Everyone is different, so as you read this, there are no requirements for me other than initially seeing if we might be a good match. Then, the learning begins. We all have to kiss a few wonderful frogs that simply aren't our particular kind of frog. As long as the rocks in my head fit the holes in yours, that's a great start.
Ultimately, I'm searching for my monogamous lifetime partner. But I also love meeting and discovering new friends and partners; those that are drawn to me, and want to learn and explore in a positive and safe environment. If it turns into more, wonderful. However without some level of intimacy and trust, it's an empty process. Kink is awesome. But intimacy makes it exponentially greater.
With as much humility as I can muster, I'm a good catch for that certain someone. While there are definitive characteristics I long for in a partner, I consciously choose not to have tunnel vision. All my greatest miracles have come "out of left field". The road may be narrow but the horizon is vastly broad.
I enjoy deep conversations, hiking, my dog, my , the theater (from the stage and audience), spirituality, the metaphysical, my business, playing cards and backgammon, being naked, cooking, and my few very close friends who I trust completely. I just need my partner with whom to share it all and more!
It's a unique relationship I will work toward when the right one comes along. And she's out there.
Read my writing if you want more insight into how I live and feel within any D/s dynamic. BTW, vanilla left the building with Elvis.
Peace
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My Ideal Person:
Someone that believes in the fairy tale. Then the fairy tale writes itself with patience, cautious optimism and deliberate effort from both parties.
Someone with whom the whole is greater than the sum our parts.
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